What food and drink to serve at a wake
A practical guide to catering for a funeral reception — from buffets and finger food to dietary requirements and alcohol.
Food and drink play an important role at a wake — they give guests something to do with their hands, create a natural reason to mingle, and signal that the gathering is a welcome one. Getting the catering right does not need to be complicated.
Buffet or sit-down meal?
For most wakes, a buffet or finger food spread is more practical than a sit-down meal. Guests arrive at different times, move around to talk, and may not want to commit to a chair for a full course. A well-laid buffet with a variety of options tends to suit the relaxed, flowing nature of a reception better than a formal dining arrangement.
What to serve
Traditional wake food in the UK includes sandwiches and wraps, sausage rolls and pastries, quiche, salads, fruit and cake. Scones with cream and jam are a popular addition at many receptions. The key is variety — ensuring there is something for everyone without overcomplicating the spread.
Dietary requirements
Always ask guests in advance about dietary requirements, and ensure any allergens are clearly labelled. Most venues that host wakes regularly are well-practised at providing vegetarian, vegan and gluten-free options. Do not leave this as an afterthought — it is considerate and practical.
Drinks
Tea and coffee are essential at any wake. Beyond that, the approach varies by family. Some provide a free bar for the duration of the reception; others offer a glass of wine or prosecco on arrival and then a cash bar. Soft drinks and water should always be available. If you are concerned about costs, a limited complimentary drinks period followed by a cash bar is a common and entirely acceptable approach.
How much food to order
For a two-hour standing buffet, budget for roughly 8–10 pieces of finger food per person. For a longer reception, increase this. Always order slightly more than you think you need — running short of food at a wake is stressful, and leftover sandwiches are not a tragedy.
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